1. Revenge is sweet – In truth, fantasies of revenge tend to be far sweeter than the realization of it. I’ve noticed that those who feel as though they have been so wronged that revenge is justified, never quite reach the place of feeling that things are truly even in the end. Seeking revenge simply keeps the pain of a given situation close to the surface and ultimately compounds the damage for everyone involved.
2. New and improved – This concept has become so engrained in Western culture that we often assume that something is an upgrade simply because it is new. While we undoubtedly live in a time of unprecedented advances in technology, I would suggest that qualities like character, craftsmanship and durability have suffered tremendously.
3. Mr. or Mrs. Right – While there are undeniably people who seem destined for each other, the myth of finding Mr or Mrs Right is that you can then have a relationship that doesn’t take any real effort. Regardless of how compatible two people may be, a healthy relationship always involves give and take. Just as in a garden, you must start with good seed, weeds occasionally have to be pulled, infestations need to be treated and sometimes things need to be watered by hand.
4. Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me – Anyone, who has been wounded by words that pierced their soul, can attest to the fact that the healing of a broken bone is much less painful and takes significantly less time.
5. There’s no harm in looking – The eyes are the windows of the soul and as humans we have a tendency to gravitate toward whatever we fix them on. What we see stirs our mind, while those thoughts evoke emotions; and ultimately those feelings press us to respond. Every great act of treason begins with just a look.
6. The more the merrier – While this saying has the potential to be true, I have found that more often than not, it isn’t. In my own lifetime I have noticed that the company of a few close friends beats being in a crowd; that acquiring more stuff hasn’t made life any better and that starving children in Third World countries seem to smile more than the average kid in middle-class America.
7. Maintenance and/or Scrub free – Though there seems to be a growing number of products making such claims (i.e. to be scrub free or maintenance free), I’ve yet to find one that truly lives up to either. This kind of marketing appeals to our desire to get good results without making any real effort, but it tends to fly in the face of reality.
8. Nice guys finish last – To be sure, nice guys are often under-appreciated and taken advantage of; but time has a way of balancing the scales and in the end, nice guys rarely finish at the back of the pack. Principles such as “you reap what you sow” or “what goes around comes around” tend to prevent this saying from ringing true.
9. Men want sex, while women want relationship – While there is an ounce of truth behind this idea, its implications are more misleading than helpful. The notion that men and women want something totally different often serves as justification for the mythological war, known as “The Battle of the Sexes”. The truth is that both men and women really want the same thing, which is to feel significant and valued. The fact that men are generally more prone to physical expression, while women are generally more prone to emotional expression, doesn’t diminish this common goal. Despite the stereotypes, men are genuinely relational beings, just as women are undoubtedly sexual beings. The struggle for many is that our contemporary ideas about sex and relationships aren’t really getting us to the place of feeling valued or significant.
10. Beauty is only skin deep – Something that is pleasing to the eye, but rotten at its core, is simply attractive and doesn’t really qualify as “beautiful”. True beauty can only be defined by what is at the heart of a thing.
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