Kids who were raised on a steady diet of positive reinforcement and no real discipline, generally become adults who feel as though they ought to be rewarded for doing the right thing and that they shouldn’t have to face the consequences when they don’t. Kids whose strictest form of punishment consisted of a “time out”, tend to grow up to believe that they are somehow entitled to a warning, but that they should never actually be given a ticket.
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Well said. I am not a big fan of “time out”. It makes our children into performing religionists, and it misrepresents our Father. It goes like this: “Go to your room and when you get yourself under control you can come back out.”
1. Teaches them that their failure separates us.
2. Teaches them that they are alone in their weakness.
3. Teaches them that their only resource in their weakness is themselves.
4. teaches them that they do not have access to our presence unless their behavior is to standard.
etc.
All these are the opposite of “Adam, where are you?” and “Come let us reason together, etc.” these so misrepresent the gospel and our Father.
This is so utterly toxic, and then we wonder why our adolescents want nothing to do with God, “leave the church” . . . . WE HAVE MADE THEM THAT WAY.
Positive reinforcement for good behavior minus consequences for bad behavior breeds entitlement mentality.
I like it Babe. Anita
The TCIT techniques are based on a similar program for parents and children, which has been demonstrated to work in reducing kids’ misbehavior. Psychologists are studying whether the treatment can be adapted to group settings in school, even if parents aren’t using the same practices at home. They are testing TCIT and related programs in schools around the country, including populations where children have known behavioral issues, as well as in mainstream classrooms.
To the chagrin of parents everywhere, there is no instruction manual on how to keep discipline from devolving into simple punishment. Frustrations with methods that never seem to work on your kids as they do on other children can be a giant hurdle to break through. When our children push the boundaries we set for them it can leave us scrambling to find a method that works to teach them to get back on track.
Amen!