The Pharisees spoke of righteousness, and generally viewed themselves as guardians of what was righteous, while Jesus lived righteously before His Father and amongst men. One of those approaches pleased God (Matt.3:17), while the other angered Him (Matt.23). We need to take an honest look at ourselves to see whose footsteps we’re following in.
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The goal isn’t to become the best version of our “self” that we can be. It’s to lose our “self” so that He might be revealed to the world around us (Rom.8:29).
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I have often sensed that Western Christianity’s consistent failure in the area of discipleship is rooted in the fact that there are so few actual “disciples” of the person of Jesus Christ within the movement. This isn’t to say that folks aren’t “Believers” (i.e. in the man, Jesus or His teachings), or that they do not take their faith seriously, it’s just that our westernized sensibilities aren’t particularly compatible with the concept of completely surrendering our lives to anything outside of ourselves.
While we understand that the original disciples sacrificed everything to follow Jesus, we reason that our particular brand of religious practice is an acceptable substitute. After all, we’ve made a “decision for Christ,” we’ve been baptized, we regularly attend, we give offerings (maybe even tithe), we do our daily devotions, we partake of sacraments, we study our bibles, we go to worship concerts, we wear religious t-shirts, we apply religious bumper stickers to our SUVs, and we’re “not ashamed” to let folks know that we are Christians. Some even speak in tongues, prophesy, and see miracles happen. But none of that necessarily equates to the discipleship that Jesus describes.
He said that whoever wants to be His disciple must deny themselves, taking up their cross daily, and following Him (Luke 9:23). Denying ourselves looks like forfeiting the “way that seems right” to us (Prov.14:12) in favor of the way that is exceedingly, abundantly more than we could ask for or imagine (Eph.3:20). It’s not trying to gain our lives, but yielding our lives to Him and His purposes (Matt.16:25). It’s doing nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, and esteeming others above ourselves (Phil.2:3). It’s taking every thought captive, and making it obedient to Christ (2Cor.10:5) and loving the way He loves (John 13:34).
It’s refusing to be conformed to the pattern of this world and allowing our minds to be renewed (Rom.12:2), so that His character would be manifest in us (Gal.5:22-23). Ultimately, it’s being transformed into the image of Christ (2Cor.3:18), so that His light would shine upon the darkest corners of His creation.
The decision to surrender our lives (i.e. take up our cross) and “follow” Jesus is not a one-time thing, it’s an everyday process (Luke 9:23), and a journey that lasts a lifetime (Phil.1:6), which is completely at odds with our cultural and religious paradigms. We prefer to think of ourselves as, “saved, sanctified, and going heaven,” which implies that the work has already been completed, and we’re just waiting for the bus to take us to the mansion He’s prepared for us.
Our version of discipleship generally consists of inviting people to come to our church, or to outreach events, yet our friends, neighbors and/or co-workers may not see any tangible evidence of our supposed passion for Christ as they walk along side of us on a daily basis. This is the anti-thesis of what Jesus described.
If the western church has any hope of fulfilling “The Great Commission (Matt.28:19),” we must first go back and become true disciples ourselves. Jesus taught that unless a seed falls to the ground and dies, it remains a single seed (John 12:24). Without taking that step we aren’t likely to accomplish much more than the promotion of “Christian” values, the perpetuation of “Christian” culture, and/or the preservation of the “church” industry.
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The answer that I’ve most often received during times of prayer is “Trust Me”
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When You arrived, there was no room for You at the inn.
When You left, there was no room for a Suffering Servant in our theology.
When You speak, there is no room for a still small voice in a head full of anxious thoughts.
When You touch, there is no room for compassion in a cynical heart.
When You come back (Luke 18:8)?
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We have a tendency to grab ahold of the things we like from scripture, and to ignore the things we don’t. We laud Solomon for asking for wisdom (1Kings3:7-9), and point to the resulting splendor that accompanied that gift (1Kings10:23-24), while ignoring the over-arching point of the entire narrative, which is that because Solomon failed to live wisely (1Kings11:6), he was ultimately rejected by God (1Kings11:11). In missing this significant lesson, many prominent ministers of the Lord have followed in Solomon’s footsteps.
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There was a little boy who moved from place to place, struggling to find his place in the world
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There was a little boy who grew up within a stable, supportive family
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There was a young child who was consistently ridiculed and bullied
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There was a young child who was consistently loved and encouraged
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There was a teenager who struggled to read, and hated school
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There was a teenager who never studied, yet passed all his classes
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There was a young man who passed on the opportunity to go to college because he felt incapable
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There was a young man chosen to be a part of an exclusive military nuclear program
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There was a man who forfeited the chance to be a father, marrying a woman who never wanted children
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There was a man who married a woman who made him the father of four children
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There was a man, whose wife left him after 12 years of marriage to be with another man
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There was a man whose wife of over 25 years stood faithfully by his side
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There was a man who relentlessly pursued the world’s pleasures
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There was a man who surrendered his life to a higher purpose
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All of these men were in fact the same man
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Each day that man gets to choose which of these experiences will shape his identity
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Holiness is not a pattern of behavior. It is a condition of the heart, which should be evidenced within our pattern of behavior.
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The Institution of Marriage
September 16, 2024 by bjcorbin
I was raised to believe that marriage is a “sacred institution”, and like so many of the ideas I grew up with, I never really questioned it. Even now, the concept still sounds reasonable to my ears. But in our years of trying to represent God’s heart to hurting people, the Lord has opened the eyes of my understanding in terms of what truly matters to Him.
I will warn you that I’ve never heard anything like this preached anywhere, and as with everything I share, I encourage you to test it by the Holy Spirit (which is significantly different than pondering how it might make you feel).
I should also preface this article with the fact that I have been divorced. For some that will taint my perspective, and for others it might lend some weight to it. I mention this because I have personally wrestled to understand God’s perspective on such things. I was raised to believe that marriage was forever, and that was always my plan. But when my first marriage was derailed (after 12 years) by infidelity, I found myself in a category that I never wanted to be in.
Despite this painful betrayal, I worked for over a year to keep the door open for reconciliation, even when my Christian friends pointed out that I had biblical grounds to end the marriage (Matt.19:9). When it was obvious that the relationship could not be mended, I still found myself wrestling with the notion of the “sin of divorce”, and the Lord said, “the sin occurred when you chose to build a life without me, and the divorce is simply the natural consequence of that.”
God’s design for marriage is that two people, who are equally yoked (i.e. on the same path, headed to the same destination, near the same point in the journey…) would join their lives together, and that the new entity formed by their union would be a conduit for new life to flow to and from them. His intent is to create something greater than the sum of its parts, and that on this foundation He can build families, communities, and ultimately nations.
The impact of a marriage done God’s way can be felt throughout the generations. Unfortunately, the damage and destruction done by unions that don’t live up to this standard also resonate well beyond the failed relationship itself. This potential was at the root of God’s prohibition of intermarrying with pagan tribes.
At the center of a marriage is the covenantal promise, and there is no question that such vows are sacred to God. Entering into any sort of covenantal relationship is a very serious matter, and a step that should not be undertaken without the Lord’s guidance. Unfortunately, we live in a culture where almost nothing is sacred, and relationships are frequently treated as a disposable commodity.
Given the widely held notion that the truth is relative, one only needs to conjure a “new truth” in order to void the terms of their oath. With the simple matter of letting our “yes be yes”, and our “no be no” (Matt.5:37), already in question, every relationship can hang precariously from a weak-willed vow.
I would suggest that this common flaw in our collective character is viewed as sinful by a holy God, even before we actually break our promises. It is evidence of our failure to fully surrender to Him and to His purposes.
The conundrum before us is how to respond in the face of such failures, and it was in the process of attempting to provide wise counsel to those with marital difficulties that the Lord began to change my view of such things. Given the (previously mentioned) frivolous approach towards relationships, it is easy to understand the temptation for ministers of the Lord to double down on the serious nature of divorce. Indeed, God does hate divorce (Mal.2:16), but have we ever stopped to ponder why that is?
In our years of ministering we’ve frequently encountered folks (most often women) who find themselves in the midst of a destructive relationship. In many of those instances there was sustained emotional, mental and physical abuse occurring, with children often trapped within the crossfire. Sadly, the consistent counsel that these individuals received from Christian sources (i.e. counselors, pastors, church leaders…) was that God hates divorce, and He expects you to endure whatever it takes to remain in the marriage. Implicitly, this indicates that the “Institution of Marriage” is so sacred to God that He expects individuals to suffer whatever abuse is necessary to preserve it.
As I prayed for and about these situations the Lord confronted the notion of the “Institution of Marriage”. He said that institutions are things that man creates, and that they are not sacred to Him. He showed me that the sacred element of a marriage is the people involved within it, and He posed the question, “Was man created for marriage, or was marriage created for man?” This of course mirrors Jesus’ challenge to the Pharisee’s about healing on the Sabbath (Mark 2:27), which was His way of telling them that they were not reflecting God’s heart in their attempt to be guardians of His law. From this, I inferred that we were similarly missing the mark.
At the point that a marriage has become a conduit for manipulation, abuse, and destruction, it has completely perverted God’s design and desire. And when a spouse no longer honors their vow to love, serve and protect, the covenant promise is already shattered (regardless of their legal marital status).
God’s hatred for divorce isn’t rooted in the damage it does to the “Institution of Marriage”, it is in the destruction it does to the people involved. And if that is so, then God also “hates” the marriage that falls into this condition. The concept that He is somehow served by continuing on with such a facade is highly questionable. In fact, Jesus said that a house divided against itself cannot stand (Mark 3:25).
To be sure, if two people were able to completely submit to the Lord’s authority, and to obey the things He told them, there is no relationship that He couldn’t heal. Of course, two people who were willing and able to do such a thing wouldn’t likely find themselves in such a dilemma. But if one or both choose to exercise their own will, God will not force them to stay together.
Certainly, their divorce would be sinful, but so would continuing on in this divided state. The decision to do so only perpetuates the damage, and allows it to spread like cancer throughout those involved (i.e. the children, the in-laws, friends…) and to pass down through the generations. Indeed, children should be the natural byproduct of a healthy loving relationship, which sets the stage for them to prosper. But children born into dysfunctional relationships become victims of the chaotic environment in which they are raised.
I once knew a man, who left his wife and children to live with his mistress. He continued to pay the bills, but abandoned his family physically and emotionally. Though this went on for a number of years, the man never divorced his wife. Eventually, she became ill, and their children cared for her until her death. After her passing, the man married the mistress.
While this man may have been able to console himself that he wasn’t guilty of the sin of divorce, I can assure you that God was not fooled nor impressed. If looking at a woman lustfully amounts to committing adultery in your heart (Matt.5:28), how would this evasive maneuver be accounted by God. The damage done by this man can still be clearly seen in both his children, and grandchildren, as they all consistently struggle to sustain healthy relationships.
Such is the byproduct of counseling folks that divorce is never an option. By sending a spouse back into a destructive, or even abusive situation, the marriage becomes an instrument of annihilation. If maintaining the union means that neither the spouses nor their children ever become who they were created to be, God is neither served nor glorified. Though we know that what God has joined together no man should separate (Matt.19:6), what happens when we join ourselves together (as I did in my first marriage) without His input or guidance?
Part of God’s redemptive nature is that He will allow diseased things to be destroyed so that they can be replaced with new life. He cuts off unhealthy branches (John 15:2), he curses unfruitful trees (Matt.21:19), and when we build our house on the wrong foundation, He allows storms to wash it away (Matt.7:26-27). He goes so far as to say that if our eye causes us to sin, we would be better off to gouge it out than to continue on in our sinful state (Matt.5:29).
This is significant, because it was God Himself that gave us two eyes, both as a gift and a provision, yet He’s saying that if this gift becomes perverted, it is better that we lose it. I would suggest that this could apply to the gift of marriage as well.
I am not in any way trying to diminish the seriousness of divorce, or the sacred nature of marriage vows. But I am challenging the presumption that it is always God’s will to preserve a marriage, regardless of what it might cost or where it might lead.
Most certainly God hates divorce, but He also hates haughty eyes, a lying tongue, false witnesses, and people who stir up conflict within a community (Prov.6:16-19). To single out divorce, and make it the unforgivable sin is a distortion of His heart.
As with all things, we need to learn how to be led by the Spirit of God in these matters, and to not trot out the same old rote religious responses we grew up with. Only He knows the truth of men’s hearts (Jer.17:9), only He has the words of life (John 6:68), and only He knows the end from the beginning (Isa.46:10). We need to be saying what He is saying, and not be saying what He is not saying (John 5:19-20).
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