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Thought for the Day – My Mother
Posted in Commentaries, Parenting / Family, Personal, Thought for the Day / Quotes, Tributes, tagged hurtful choices, Mother's Day, parenting, prayers of protection, problem child, refused to give up, tribute on May 9, 2016| Leave a Comment »
Clearly, I meant to post this yesterday. But, as is so often the case, things got away from me.
Over the years I’ve written a few tributes to my father, but I don’t recall ever doing so for my mom. I’m sure this has to do with the fact that my dad contracted a terminal illness (and passed away) at a relatively young age. But honor shouldn’t be reserved for the dead, and kind words ought not be saved for eulogies. So on the occasion of Mother’s Day, I thought it would be fitting to share a few thoughts about my mother.
My parents had four children, three stair step boys, and then, more than a decade removed, a daughter. I was the bottom rung of the first wave, and easily my parents most challenging kid. My oldest brother was one of those precocious children, who talked as though he was 35 years old by the time he was six. Our middle brother was quiet, but did well in school, and excelled at every sport he ever played (My grandmother actually referred to him as her “Golden Boy”). And then, I came along. Blind as a bat, emotionally unstable, and full of imagination; I was literally walking into walls by the time I reached school age. Between struggles in the classroom, skirmishes on the playground, and little brother meltdowns, I was a kid who required a lot of parenting. And because of my father’s demanding Air Force career, the lion’s share of that fell to my mom. I have no doubt that it was at times exasperating, and exhausting to deal with me. Lord knows, that was the way it felt to be me. But my mother was never one to shrink back from a challenge, and she wouldn’t let me do so either. As much as I wanted to accept the rather overwhelming evidence that I was simply an inferior model, she was having none of it. She made it her mission to ensure that all of her kids would be ready to face to the world, and little by little, I began to pull out of my tailspin.
Unfortunately, just about the time I grew strong enough to stand on my own two feet, I began to drift into things that my parents had strictly forbidden. My weak sense of identity caused me to look for the place that I fit in, and resulted in me trying a little bit of everything. In those years, I made many disappointing and hurtful choices, but my parents stuck with me. My mom’s persistent belief, and her prayers of protection, were without a doubt a key to surviving that season. Though I broke her heart many times, she refused to give up on me.
It took some years, but the seeds that were planted throughout my life finally took root, and things began to turn. God finally convinced me that my mother had been right all along, and that I wasn’t some sort of defective piece of machinery. In His grace, God allowed me to become a father, where I gained a new appreciation for the kind of love it takes to raise a kid like me. As I look back, I can’t help but think that God gave me to a mother that He knew would be strong enough to fight the battles, and persistent enough to go the distance. Indeed, my mother is an extraordinary person, whose love for me has made all the difference. If not for her, I would not have become the man that I am today.
As I look back, I thank God for the love that she and my father shared, which showed us that marriage was meant to last a lifetime. I thank God that she refused to raise boys who sit around in the underwear, watch cartoons and don’t know the first thing about taking care of themselves (or anyone else). And I thank God that after years of dealing with my disarray, He rewarded my parents with their best kid, my sister.
Happy Mother’s Day mom!
Thought for the Day – A Big Gulp
Posted in Commentaries, Opinions, Thought for the Day / Quotes, tagged blessing, dispenser, grace on May 4, 2016| Leave a Comment »
We must remember that the cup we choose to dispense grace with today will be the same one used to serve our blessings for tomorrow. (Matt 7:2, Mark 4:24, Luke 6:28) If we feel as though our lives are lacking in the area of blessing, it might be a good time to select a new dispenser.
Thought for the Day – Patting Yourself on the Back
Posted in Commentaries, Opinions, Thought for the Day / Quotes, tagged lack of contempt, proud, religious establishment, sinners, the worldly on May 1, 2016| Leave a Comment »
When Jesus walked the earth, He was not put off by sinners. In fact, He was roundly criticized by the religious establishment for His lack of contempt for them. And so it is today; it is not the weak, the lost, and the worldly that He resists. It is the proud.
Thought for the Day – Dealing With a Visionary
Posted in Commentaries, Opinions, Thought for the Day / Quotes, tagged discontent, progress, visionary on April 24, 2016| Leave a Comment »
The struggle in dealing with a visionary is that no matter how well something turns out, the picture they had in their head looked better; and often times they’d rather build a new house than to clean the one they live in now. While a vision for the future can be a seed for progress, it can also become a seed of discontent for today.
Thought for the Day – Hidden
Posted in Commentaries, Opinions, Thought for the Day / Quotes, tagged holy, salt and light on March 21, 2016| Leave a Comment »
Isolating ourselves from the world won’t necessarily make us holy, but it will ensure that we don’t fulfill our destiny as salt and light to those struggling in the darkness.
Thought for the Day – Short Cuts
Posted in Commentaries, Opinions, Thought for the Day / Quotes, tagged short circuit, short cut on March 10, 2016| Leave a Comment »
Often times what appears to be a short cut turns into a short circuit.
Thought for the Day – Solving World Hunger
Posted in Commentaries, Opinions, Thought for the Day / Quotes, tagged no control, serenity prayer on May 19, 2016| Leave a Comment »
I believe that much of our day to day struggle is rooted in trying to wrap our minds and arms around situations which are not ours to fix, and over which we have little or no control. Indeed, I suspect that this is why so many 12 step programs begin with the “Serenity Prayer” (i.e. Lord, grant me the strength to change the things I can change, the patience to live with the things I can’t, and the wisdom to know the difference between the two). Engaging in battles for which we’re not commissioned not only causes us to become exhausted and frustrated, it often results in us missing the opportunity to change the things we actually can. It is akin to the person who is so preoccupied with solving world hunger that they fail to notice the hungry man they pass on the street.
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