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What I see as a failure (2Cor.12:9)

You see as learning

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What I view with self-sufficiency (Prov.14:12)

You see as pride

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What I see as a chance to get even (Matt.6:14-15)

You see as an opportunity for mercy

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What I view with frustration (Isa.40:31)

You view with patience

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What I view as crushing (2Cor.12:9)

You see as renewing

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What I view as being made vulnerable (Matt.18:3)

You see as an opportunity to trust

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What I view with pessimism (1Pet.3:15)

You view with hope

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What I view as my own righteousness (Isa.64:6)

You view as tattered rags

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What I view through a broken exterior (1Sam.16:7)

You view through the beauty within

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What I see as unpleasant to the body (Gal.5:17)

You see as pleasing to the spirit

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What I see as disillusionment (John 8:31-32)

You see as liberating

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What I see as an opportunity to gain my life (Matt.16:25)

You see as the threat of losing it

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What I view as an occasion of my weakness (2Cor.12:9)

You see as an opportunity to manifest Your strength

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What I view in judgment (Matt.7:1-3)

You see with grace

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What I see dimly (1Cor.13:12)

You see with absolute clarity

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What I view as a roiling sea (Matt.14:30)

You view as a chance to walk on water

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What I view as being alone (Heb.13:5)

You view as being alone with You

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Lord, help me to see through Your eyes (Isa.55:8-9, 1Cor.3:19, 2Cor.4:18)

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At the relatively young age of forty-five, Steve Phillips pretty much had it made.  He had a beautiful wife, a couple of great kids, a nice home and a job that he loved.  Despite growing up in a decidedly middle class family, Steve’s talent with all things electronic had made him an extremely successful man.  It certainly didn’t hurt that he entered the industry right as the digital boom was beginning and that he had been a part of various teams that had developed major advances in photography, sound, communications and computer integration.  At what was presumably the mid-point in his career, he and his staff were devoted to research and development; which allowed them to pretty much play with the technology, looking for new innovations.  It was a dream job and Steve was truly grateful for it.  He also appreciated the wonderful lifestyle that it afforded his family. 

Though he was not a deeply religious man, Steve had been raised in a Christian home, married a Christian girl and their family regularly attended a local church.  Though God was not a major topic of discussion at the dinner table, it was something that he and his wife wanted to weave into the fabric of their family life.  From Steve’s perspective, one hour of church a week was a small price to pay for the sense of “eternal security” that it brought him.  At work, he was discreet about his faith; understanding that many technically minded people didn’t share his particular view of such things.  He felt pretty good about the balance he’d achieved with that until he one day overheard his thirteen year old son talking to a friend on the phone.  Within that conversation his son said that he considered “The Jesus Story” to be nothing more than a legend that ancient people used as a way to make themselves feel better; and that the human race had advanced far beyond the need for such “fairy tales”.  He also made the statement, “if there ever really was a God, the power of the human mind has rendered Him obsolete!”  Steve shuddered at the idea that this is what his son had derived from his upbringing, but he wasn’t really sure what he ought to do about it.  The more he thought about it, the more troubling it became to him; and eventually he grew worried enough to actually start praying.  As he whispered for help beneath his breath, his discomfort in speaking to an unseen God started to evaporate, as an idea slowly began to creep into his head.

Steve decided not to let his son (Jason) know that he’d overheard his little commentary on God until after he’d followed through on his idea, which took a few weeks to put together.  As he worked on the project, Steve often found himself talking to God in a way that he never had before and though he wasn’t really sure what it all meant, it somehow made God seem more real to him.  He was excited as he wrapped the finished product up in a packing box on a Friday morning and made arrangements for Jason to receive the package the next day.  On Saturday, when the doorbell rang, Steve smiled to himself and asked his son to get the door.  Jason was so excited about getting the package that he practically pulled it out of the delivery man’s hands and tore the box open without bothering to look for a return address.  He was even more excited when he found that it contained what looked to be a laptop computer.  The only thing that kept him from being sure that it was a laptop was that the machine had absolutely no markings on it.  Even the keyboard had no markings on the keys.  As Jason closely examined the machine, he heard his father’s voice from the other room, “Who was at the door Jason?”

Jason bounded into the living room, both perplexed and excited, as he told Steve about his special delivery and showed him the machine.

“Are you sure you read the label right; this looks like something that would be sent to me, not you” Steve said.

“Of course I read the label right” Jason snapped.

“OK, so who’s it from?” Steve shot back

Jason let out an impatient sigh, as he realized he hadn’t looked at that and his face turned red as he had to retrieve the box to check.

“Look Dad, it doesn’t have a return address.”

“Well maybe there’s some paperwork inside the box” Steve replied.

“No, there’s nothing; I already checked” he said impatiently, as he flipped the machine over.

“What are you looking for Jason” Steve inquired.

“I’m looking for the manufacturer information.  Maybe we can look them up on the web and see if they can send us a manual for this thing” Jason replied.

“That’s a great idea son, what do see?”

“Nothing, absolutely nothing; that’s the craziest thing I’ve ever seen.  How in the world do they expect me to run this stupid machine” Jason snorted.

“Well this was probably some sort of mistake, maybe we should just throw it away” Steve suggested.

“Are you crazy?  Throw away a brand new machine.  No way!” he replied.

“But what can you do with it?” Steve asked

With the wild-eyed confidence of a mad scientist, Jason proclaimed, “Just give me some time and I’ll figure this thing out!”

With that he was off to his bedroom, for what turned out to be most of the weekend.  At times, Steve could hear him yell in frustration at what a stupid machine it was and at other times, Jason would come out doing a little victory dance over something he’d discovered.  During the exuberant times he’d say, “We don’t need no stinking manual!” but in the frustrating times he’d moan, “How am I supposed to do anything without a manual?”  This cycle continued until late Sunday evening, when Steve asked him to bring the machine to the dining room.  As Jason came in, he looked a little haggard and more frustrated than excited.  He showed Steve what he’d been able to figure out on his own, which was actually pretty impressive; but clearly he wasn’t satisfied with it.  When Jason finally plopped down in one of the dining room chairs, Steve asked, “So what’s the bottom line with this thing?”

With a confused look on his face, Jason said, “The bottom line?”

“Yeah” replied Steve.  “I mean is this a good machine or is it a piece of junk?”

“I don’t know!” Jason grunted.  “It seems like it’s got some good features, but I’m not really sure what it can do.”

“So if you keep messing with it, do you think you could figure out what it’s capable of?” Steve asked.

“I’m sure I could figure out some stuff” Jason replied.  “But I doubt I could ever figure out everything it could do without some more information from the manufacturer.”

“So I’m pretty good with computers, do think I could figure it out?” Steve pressed

“You could do better than me, but there are some things that you’d probably never find unless you talked to the guy who designed this thing” Jason replied.  

Steve smiled and playfully said, “Ya think so?”

Jason half smiled back and said, “Yeah, I think so.”

After a little pause, Steve asked, “So was messing with this thing all weekend fun or a waste of time?”

“I did have some fun, but now that I’ve blown a whole weekend on it, I think it was mostly a waste of time.  I’m definitely frustrated with it.  I just wish I knew where it came from and why it was sent to me” he said.

“How would you feel if I told you that I sent it to you?” Steve asked.

“What” Jason blurted.  “Why would you do that?”

“To teach you something about life” Steve replied.

“About life?  I don’t get it; what are you talking about?” Jason growled in confusion

“I wanted to illustrate for you that human beings are incredibly complex machines” Steve said.

“Like this laptop?” Jason retorted

“Yes and like this laptop, their buttons and controls don’t come with labels on them” Steve continued.  “And while we can play with those things for a while and figure out a few things, we’ll never really find out what we’re capable of unless we go back and consult the One who created us.”

“You mean God?” Jason asked sheepishly.

“Yes, I mean God” Steve replied.  “You see Jason, you get to believe whatever you choose about God, but if you decide to live as though He has become ‘obsolete’, you’ll spend your whole life doing what you did this weekend.  You’ll punch buttons and see what happens; hoping that something good will come from it, but never really knowing for sure.  Honestly, that’s how most people live; and if that’s the way you decide to go, at the end of your life, you’ll probably feel just like you do now; like it was all just a waste of time.  But if you believe that God is real and seek His guidance, it could be like what might have happened if you and I would have sat down together with this thing and I could’ve shown you all the incredible features I built into it.”

“But I didn’t know you built it” Jason said defensively.

As Steve stood to his feet he said, “That’s true, there was no way you could have known that I was the one who designed it; but make no mistake Jason, you were not simply hatched or some sort of pleasant biological accident; you were also created.  And if that’s the case, then it follows that you must have a ‘Creator”.  Like me this weekend, He stands at the ready to help when you ask Him and unlike me, He took the time to provide a manual.”  At that moment Steve placed a copy of the Bible on the table in front of Jason.

Jason looked at the book with an expression of disdain and said, “So what am I supposed to do with this laptop?”

“I want you to keep it” Steve replied.  

“For what?” Jason asked.

“To remind you of what it’s like to live life as though you’ve become too technologically advanced to need help and to let the limitations of your own mind become your boundaries for living” he replied.

“So I’m just supposed to let it sit in my room and be some sort of symbol?” Jason asked.

“Well, that’s up to you. Just like what it symbolizes, you have the choice to do something with it or to blow it off.  If you’ll take the time to get with me, I can assure you that this little machine has some one of a kind features that you’ll really love.  If you decide to go it alone, you may or may not discover some of them; or you can simply ignore the whole thing and wonder about what you might have missed.  In the end, it’ll be whatever you decide.”

Steve walked to the doorway and turned back to his son.  “Jason, you know that I love you and you may not appreciate how I went about this, but it’s important that you think about what I am trying to teach you.  It will make all the difference in your life.”

Steve stepped out of the dining room to give Jason some space.  He hoped that it would allow Jason’s defensiveness to wane.  He prayed that God would help his son to see the truth, but he knew that God wouldn’t take away Jason’s ability to choose his own path.  Steve really didn’t expect Jason to say much after that, so he was surprised when Jason came to say goodnight.  Though he was still a little tentative, he did hug his father and told him that he loved him.  As he headed for the stairs, he turned back and asked, “Dad, are you busy tomorrow night?”

“I don’t think so son; what did you have in mind?” Steve asked.

“I was hoping that maybe we could get into some of those ‘one of a kind’ features you were talking about” Jason replied with a smile.

Steve smiled back at him and said, “I’d love that son”.

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It’s not really love

just because I was stirred at the first sight of you

 

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It’s not really love

simply because I like the way you make me feel

 

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It’s not really love

just because you fill a void in my existence

 

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It’s not really love

simply because I appreciate all that you’ve done for me

 

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It’s not really love

just because I feel drawn to you

 

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It’s not really love

simply because I like to think of you as mine

 

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It’s not really love

just because I want what you bring to my life

 

no

 

It’s not really love

until it stops being about what I think I want or need

 

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It starts being about who You are

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Want you to know that I don’t blame you

You just wanted “the best” for me

You sacrificed so much to make me a winner

You deserved better

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If I just could’ve stood a little straighter

If my hair wasn’t so stringy

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All those cute little outfits

To you, sexy just meant playful

But playful meant something different to them

Anything you serve like an hors d’oeurve is bound to be devoured

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If only I had been a better singer

If I just had fuller lips

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I tried to smile for the camera

It’s what happened when the camera was off that made it hard

Thank God for makeup

The bruises & scars never showed

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Maybe if I had been smarter

If I wasn’t so clumsy

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You always said there was a price to pay

And I’ve tried hard to “live the dream”

Guess I must not have wanted it bad enough

You deserved better

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If only I had been taller

If I wasn’t so flat-chested

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Always in the court, but never the Queen

At nineteen, it’s already too late for me

The “1st Alternate” to the winner is still just a loser

Who could want me now?

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If only I could have lost more weight

If my eyes weren’t so close together

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I’m sorry for letting you down

For leaving the stage before the show is really over

I’m sorry about all of this blood on the floor

But as it weeps from my wrists, I feel strangely free

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If only I could have been a daughter you could be proud of

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As she prayed, she saw her shadow on the wall and something about it troubled her.  Despite her best efforts to ignore it, her eyes kept drawing back to it; and finally in frustration, she interrupted her prayer.

“Lord, what is it about this shadow that is so troubling to me?” she asked.

She was more than a little surprised when He very clearly and immediately replied, “It is not the shadow itself that troubles you, it is what it represents.”

After a brief pause to ponder what He might be referring to, she continued, “Lord, what is it that the shadow represents?”

Again, with great clarity He said, “It represents places where the light has been blocked.”

His words sparked a revelation within her, as she added, “Or in this case, the places where I’m blocking the light.”

“Indeed” He acknowledged.

The thought of it made her feel exposed and ashamed, even though she could tell that the Lord was not upset with her.  She unconsciously began to wrestle with ideas about how she might avoid casting such a shadow; and after taking some time to consider it, she asked, “Is it even possible to walk in the light without casting a shadow?”

“It is possible”, He replied; “but it’s something that you really have to want.”

Confused, she asked, “What kind of Christian wouldn’t want that?”

“One who craves the approval of men” He said.  “For those people, it is important that the spotlight remain on them.  They see their shadow as a representation of their stature within my kingdom and thus they work hard to cast it as tall and wide as they can.  They often justify it with words like ‘anointing’ or ‘influence’, and they convince themselves that I am somehow glorified by them being glorified.  But in truth it is nothing more than the silhouette that their image creates when they stand in front of the light.  What they don’t recognize is that to those people who chose to stand in their shadow, they are nothing more than an obstruction to the light.”

A wave of conviction rolled over her, as she pondered what kind of shadow her life might be casting.  Tentatively she asked, “Lord, are there people standing in my shadow?”

“Just as the light that comes from your life, so also does your shadow affect your husband, your children, your family, friends, neighbors and co-workers.  It is a condition that is common to all men”, He replied.

“Then how is it possible to walk without casting a shadow?” she asked.

“It can only happen when the light comes from within you” He replied.

She was at once amazed by the simplicity of His answer and challenged by the implications of it.  “But how can I make the light come from within me?” she pleaded.

“You must understand that it does not happen by talking about the light, or pointing to it, or trying to control it, or trying to market it or by trying to legislate it.  The light can only come from within when you succumb to it” He said.

As His words resonated within her, tears began to well up in her eyes and she felt an overwhelming desire to surrender herself to Him anew.  As she raised her trembling hands to Him, she said, “Lord, let it be so in me”.

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Son Dearest Son,

It is very late in the evening, and as I write this letter you are sound asleep. The truth be told, you’ve been asleep for hours, but it was only in the last few minutes that I managed to let you go. I knew that becoming a father would be very special, but I never knew that my heart could be so full. It’s as if I’ve lived in the same two-story house for my whole life, only to discover that there’s actually a third floor. Your arrival has broken something open in me and I can’t seem to stop it from spilling out. I’ve barely been able to speak all day, but in this late hour I feel the need to try to put some things into words. I don’t know that what I’m about to write will make any sense, but it is my heart in this moment.

I guess that I should start by saying that you are the most precious thing that I’ve ever held in my hands. You have a face like an angel (just like your momma) and as your tiny hand wrapped around my finger, I just knew that you were a miracle sent from heaven. I guess that since babies are born everyday we don’t tend to think of it as miraculous, but now I understand that it is. I marvel that anyone who’s experienced this could doubt that there is a God. I feel humbled that He allowed me to be a part of it all. He surely could have given you to a better man; I hope that I don’t disappoint Him and I hope that you’re not disappointed either. I feel ill-equipped to be all that you’ll need me to be, but I am resolved to give it everything that I have. If I succeed at nothing else, I pray that you will grow up knowing how special you are and how much you are loved.

As much as I want to do & be everything for you, I realize that my influence on your life will only be for a season; and that long before I’m ready, you’ll be a man, making his own way in the world. In the time that I have, there is so much about life that I hope to teach you. I wish that I could tell you that it is how I’ve lived my life, but sometimes the way to discover what is true is to first figure out what is false. Unfortunately, I’ve learned many things that way in my lifetime. It is my hope that you will be a better man than I have been, so I will try to teach you the truth, even the parts that I haven’t lived yet. The thing about truth is that even though it can be a hard pill to swallow, it ultimately sets you free. I pray that the truth will always be welcomed in your life, because a man who deceives himself is incapable of being honest with anyone else.

I wish I could tell you that this new world you’ve come to is some sort of paradise, but honestly this life can be pretty hard. There is fear and pain and evil here, and things aren’t always fair. But son, there is also goodness and beauty and love in this world, and if you’ll watch for it, you’ll find it everywhere. God left His fingerprints on everything and if you’ll notice them, it will remind you that He’s always close by. Try not to keep score on how many good things or bad things happen in your life; be quick to forgive and to admit when you’re wrong, so that you can move past the hurtful things; and take time to enjoy and celebrate what is beautiful. Try to be the kind of person who builds up instead of tearing down, and who gives more than they’re looking to get. Always remember that the most miserable life you can live is one that is all about yourself.

As I held you today, my mind was filled with images of all the things that you might become; but honestly, I just want you to become whoever you were created to be. And the only one who can really get you there is the One who created you. Don’t worry when people tell you that believing in God is a crutch; the truth is that we all need something to lean on and if you look closely, you’ll see that everyone has some sort of crutch. The difference is that those other crutches don’t have the ability to bring peace or hope into your life. God means for us to lean on Him, which is why He only offers “daily bread”; because He wants us to come back every day. You see God is love and in the end that’s what it all boils down to; it is our deepest need, our strongest motivation, our greatest joy and ultimately what life is all about.

I guess it seems strange to be thinking about the end of your life on the day that it’s beginning, but if we understood from the start what will matter at the end, I think it would change how we lived in between. Don’t worry about what you don’t know; that’s what faith is for. Don’t worry about the ways that you will fall short; that’s what grace is for. Don’t worry what other people believe about you; just be careful what you choose to believe about yourself. Don’t get caught up in what this world calls success, because a man who is driven by the need for success is destined to be pursued by the fear of failure. Don’t let your heart be swayed by this world’s conception of beauty; the most beautiful face you’ll ever see is the one that looks back at you in love. Don’t be afraid to believe in what you can’t see or explain; it’s only the invisible things that really last and only the things that are bigger than we can comprehend that stir up our ability to hope.

I guess I can’t try to fit a whole lifetimes worth of advice into your first day. Now that I’ve written all of this down, I’m not really sure what to do with it. Maybe someday you’ll read it and more than heeding all of the advice, I hope you’ll have some greater understanding of how your arrival changed my life. I’m so grateful for the opportunity to be called your father, but I also know that before I held you in my hands today, you were in the hands of “The Father” and long after I’m gone, He will still be your Father. I pray that nothing I ever do will distort your view of Him, because even if I fail you, He never will. I love you son, I’m so glad that you’re here. God sure did a great job when He made you. I hope you will one day understand the miracle that you are.

With All of My Love – Dad

* * The sentiments that I expressed in this letter are no less true for any of my other children (including my step-daughter), but you can only experience the” first time” once and so this writing simply centers on that moment.

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As my little boy walked in the door, I could tell by his expression that he wasn’t having a good day. I asked him what was wrong and he tried to say that it was nothing, but I knew that wasn’t true. I asked him to come to me and to tell me what was going on. Before he even reached me I could see that there were tears in his eyes and as he wrapped his arms around me, he let go of the emotion which had been piling up inside of him all day.

 

As he wept, I held him close, allowing him time to release those overwhelming feelings. Finally, I asked him what this was all about. He pulled his chin off my shoulder and looked me in the face.  His expression was full of pain and confusion as he asked, “Daddy, why do people have to be so mean; why do they have to tease, and be so hateful; why am I so different than everyone else, and why don’t I ever seem to fit in. I don’t feel like I belong here Daddy  Can we move someplace else; someplace where the people are nicer, someplace where I fit in!   Again, his emotions overwhelmed him, as he fell back into my embrace and wept bitterly. My heart broke for him, as I clearly recalled experiencing those same feelings.

 

As I held him, I began to rock him gently, praying that God would give me words of comfort for him. Slowly, this song rose out of my spirit and I sang it over him.

 

Peace, peace, little one

This is not your home

You were made for brighter days

And a Kingdom yet to come

 

Hope, hope, little man

Don’t fall into despair

God will go before you

And you’re always in His care

 

Run, run little feet

Run into the light

You were never meant for wrath

And you’re precious in His sight

 

Rest, rest, little soul

This life is just a dream

Like a shepherd, He will guide you

And bring you to the stream

 

Pray, pray, little son

Your Father hears your plea

He formed you with His very hands

And made you to be free

 

Shine, shine, little light

He’s freed you from the snare

He’s placed His robe upon you

And now He calls you” heir”

 

Sing, sing, little voice

Your strength is found in joy

Your Father loves when you believe

And trust Him like a boy

 

Love, love, little heart

It’s the only way to live

Don’t let fear hold you back

Give all you have to give

 

Burn, burn, little flame

The Spirit dwells in you

He yearns to be revealed

Making all things new

 

Rise, rise, little king

The war’s already won

You will have some battles

But victory when they’re done

 

Peace, peace, little one

This is not your home

You were made for brighter days

And a Kingdom yet to come

 

As I sang, I could feel a calm settle over him and I thought he might actually be falling asleep; but after a few moments of silence, he once again pulled his head from my shoulder and looked at me.

 

“So you’re saying that the reason I don’t fit in here is because this isn’t really my home?” he asked.

 

“That’s right”, I replied. “You were made for heaven!”

 

He smiled and said, “So I’m like an alien in this world?”

 

“Yup” I replied. “You’re really just an ambassador, visiting this planet to let people know about the great place that you come from. You were never really meant to feel at home here.”

 

His face seemed to brighten at that idea, as he said, “cool”.

 

He slide off my lap and began to walk away, when he suddenly turned back, with a thoughtful look on his face. “You know what Dad” he asked.

 

“What son” I replied.

 

“I can’t wait to get home”, he said.

 

I felt tears welling up in my eyes as I replied, “Me too son, me too.”

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As a father of four (two sons and two daughters), it seems inevitable that I will one day occupy the position of “father-in-law” in somebody’s life.  Though that may still be some years away (I hope!), I’ve been watching my peers go through this process and I’ve noticed how often fiancé’s talk about wanting to have a great relationship with their future in-laws.  Since I’m confident that I won’t be included in the selection process, I thought it might be helpful to make a list for these future family members.  After all, I want to have a great relationship with them too!

1.      This marriage is going to cost you!  I sincerely hope that you’ve decided that my child is Mr. or Mrs. Right, that you guys were meant to be together, that you have great chemistry…etc, but even if all of that is true, you need to understand that sharing your life with someone will always involve sacrifice.  If that isn’t what you’re signing up for, I’d recommend reconsidering your position.

2.      I have x-ray vision & I plan on using it.  I’m sure that you’re going to make a big effort to make a good impression when we meet and I appreciate that; but I can promise you that my biggest concern will be with what’s in your heart.  If I sense the kind of love that I have for my child in your heart, I feel certain that we’ll get along just fine.

3.      Get ready to be disappointed.  I hope that your courtship has been like a great fairytale romance and that your wedding will be a kind of coronation of that great love; but truthfully, day to day life is rarely like that.  There will undoubtedly be struggles and disappointments along the way and how you handle those things together will ultimately define your marriage.  I have found that if your love is genuine, the struggles will only make that bond stronger.

4.      I cannot be an unbiased, casual observer.  In these days of political correctness it is tempting to claim that I will be a completely unbiased, casual observer, in your relationship with my son or daughter, but for me that would be a lie.  While I do understand that your life will be your own and that I need to respect the boundaries you establish, I don’t have it within me to be casual or unbiased in my feelings for my children.  That does not mean that I will be against you or that I will be unwilling to find fault in your spouse.  It is my hope that my feelings will eventually become just as biased for you.

5.      Remember where the hole was.  There is a void within our hearts that can only be filled by someone who genuinely cares for us; but the danger in long term relationships is that over time we can forget what life was like before that hole was filled.  One of the most common terminal illnesses’ that strikes in relationships is when people begin to take each other for granted.  Though I hope that your life together will bring about a sense of inner wholeness, I also pray that you will never forget where the hole used to be.

6.      Don’t marry my child for what you hope they will bring to your life.  Though I would hope that marrying one of my children will bring great things to your life, I pray that this would not be your sole motivation for the marriage.  The love that I have for my kids compels me to hope for someone who wants to bring something to their lives.  If you’re simply looking for someone to make you feel loved and to be there for you, I’d recommend buying a cat.  It’s cheaper, it’s easier and you can even have them de-clawed.

7.      Honesty is still the best policy.  If you really want a relationship that lasts, forget just about everything that you’ve ever seen on television or in movies about how to handle relationships.  It’s not supposed to be a battle, or a power struggle, or a game, or filled with intrigue and manipulation.  Just be honest from the beginning.  That not only goes for your marriage, it will also help tremendously with you and me.

8.      The easiest way to gain treasure is to treasure what you have.   If you treat something valuable as though it is old junk it will eventually become old junk.  Relationships work the same way.  Contrary to popular mythology, it is not often the younger, more physically attractive person that steals a spouse; it is generally the one who makes them feel more valued.

9.      Put all your eggs in one basket.  Once you’ve decided on your life’s mate, I suggest that you change your view of every other member of the opposite sex.  Begin to view every older person like a parent, every peer like a sibling and every younger person like one of your children.  Reserve every bit of your romantic and sexual energy (including your thoughts) for your mate.  If you do this, you’ll be amazed at how passionate your marriage will stay.

10.  God has a destiny for my child.  It is my personal belief that God created each of my children with a destiny and in the time they’ve been with me, it’s been my mission to help them in finding it.  If you will take that on as your mission, you will always have my support.

Note – The fact that this document contains no mention of grandchildren should not be misinterpreted. 

Some things go without saying.  If you don’t know my feelings about children, we’ve clearly never met.

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There was once a young sailor who had the opportunity to sail through uncharted waters, on a ship headed to a dark and unexplored land.  The men in his family had been sailors for generations and he’d grown up to stories of the great adventures that his father, and grandfather and great-grandfather had on such journeys.  Though he’d been sailing for some years himself, he’d never gone more than a few hundred miles up or down the coastline.  He yearned to experience the adventure of the unknown and despite the potential danger; he jumped at the chance to sign aboard.

 

Only his father seemed to fully understand his desire to do such a thing.  And as the day drew near for his departure, he noticed that his father was busily working on something.  It occurred to him to ask of it, but he was too distracted to remember the question.  As he was saying his goodbyes on the pier, he saw his father having a chest loaded onto the ship.  When he asked about it, his father simply said, it is a few things that you’ll need along the way.  The young man couldn’t imagine what he’d need that wasn’t already loaded in the sack slung over his shoulder, but he was too excited to ask any more about it.

 

The chest was loaded deep into the ship’s cargo hold, where it seemed destined to be forgotten.  In the first days of the journey, the excitement of the departure gave way to the monotony of the sea and as the days turned to weeks, the journey began to take its toll.  As the sun and the wind of the sea began to make his skin turn to leather, the young man remembered the chest and his father’s words of what was inside.  He made his way deep into the ships hold and found the chest; sure enough there was a jar of ointment for his skin.  Later while re-loading supplies in a tropical port, the ship became infested with biting flies and the young man found a roll of netting within the chest that protected him from them.  In the days when sickness and fever swept through the crew, he found various jars of herbs and teas to preserve him.  As a matter of fact every time a malady came his way, he seemed to find something within the chest to help him.  Each time this would happen, he would marvel at his fathers’ insight as to what he would encounter on his journey.

 

As the months turned to years, the young man always knew to go to the chest when he was in need, until one day he noticed that he was taking the last article from it.  A wave of sadness came over him, as he guessed that his father couldn’t have anticipated that this journey was going to last so long.  His heart was heavy as he climbed out of the ships hold, his sense of adventure was spent and he just wanted to be home.  As he reached the deck, he first heard the excited voices of the crew and then the ringing of the ships bell.  As he got to the ships railing he could see that they were finally home.

 

As the ship drew near to the pier he could see his father calmly waiting, as if he knew exactly when they’d be arriving, even though they hadn’t known themselves.  The son stared at his father in awe and his heart was filled with love and gratitude.  As he walked down the gangway, he felt like a little boy and as he embraced his father, his tears began to flow as he heard him say, “Welcome home Son, I’m so proud of you”.

 

As the Lord gave me this little parable, He said that you are that young sailor, and that the chest He’s packed for you is your heart.   He said that because He’s gone before you, He has anticipated everything that you will need on your journey and that you simply need to go and look for His provision within your heart.  He said that you need not ever question whether you’ll find what you need, because He was very careful when He packed.  He also mentioned that He knows the journey is longer than, and at times not nearly as adventurous as you’d hoped; but He wants you to know that there is purpose in every mile.  He says that it’s exciting to see you find new things within your heart that you didn’t know were there, but that His truest joy will be the day that you return forever.  He’s looking forward to that moment on the pier even more than you are.

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It is one of those cool clear nights, when every star in the heavens seems to be visible. The moon is but a sliver and sits low on the horizon. Other than the steady chiming of the crickets, there is no sound. There is only enough light to see vague silhouettes in the distance, except for the yellow glow coming from the partially open door on the shed.

 

Though the door is only slightly ajar, the light pours out from it. As I move closer, a faint gnawing sound can be heard coming from inside. The hour is late and these are the only signs of life.

 

As I peek through the opening, the room seems filled with more light than could be produced by the little lantern on the workbench. It makes the room seem warmer than the cool night air. At the bench sits a craftsman, with his head bowed low and his shoulders shifting from the intent work of his hands. From behind he seems to be very focused on his work and unaware of my presence.

 

I creep closer, straining to elongate my body in hopes of catching a glimpse of the object in his hands. It appears to be a small wooden figure and he is handling it as though it is fragile. On the bench before him is an array of knives, chisels and picks, used to whittle the wood; and I see him deftly shift from one tool to another, as he hones every crease and edge. The intricate detail of the etching reveals the skill of his hands and the depth of the vision he has for this creation. His steady and patient movements reveal his commitment to fully realize this vision. Though the hour is very late, there is no sense that he’s concerned about the time. His loving, gentle touch speaks of his passion for this work.

 

Occasionally, he holds the piece close to his face, to blow a stray sliver away. There is no pause in his manner; every movement of his hands seems filled with significance. As he sets down the finest of his picks, I sense that the work is done. There is a low hum that seems to come from within him and I sense that he is smiling. He gently caresses his new creation, holding it up to the light and looking at it from every angle. It is a beautiful piece of work and more intricate than I could’ve imagined was possible. Sensing that he is finished, I back away and suddenly the lantern within the shed goes out.

 

There is a stirring that happens within the heart of love and as it wells up, it becomes an inspiration. If that inspiration is embraced, it becomes a passion, spilling out of the heart and becoming manifest for all to see. In the heart of a painter, it spills onto a canvass; in the heart of a musician, it comes out as a melody; from the heart of a sculptor, it takes on a form and from the heart of a parent, it is expressed in their children. Creation is the manifestation of inspiration and it is truly divine.

 

For those who create with their hands, each piece is a one of kind. Each creation is an expression of the heart of its creator and as such reflects an aspect of their being. There is much that can be learned about an Artisan by studying what they’ve made; each piece invaluable in the understanding of their heart.

 

One night, long ago, your Creator was stirred in His heart, and that stirring became His inspiration to create you. He formed you with His very own hands, and with painstaking detail He fashioned your heart. There is nothing about your being that is a mistake or an oversight, each part of you was created with intent and purpose. Who you were made to be is not just the accumulation of past experiences, good or bad. You were made to be a reflection of the heart of your Creator, and as such there is something of Him that is uniquely revealed in you. His light and life can show through you in a way that can be expressed by no other creation.

 

If you don’t become who He made you to be, there is an aspect of Him that the world might never see. You are a one of a kind, unique across all of time and irreplaceable. When He was done forming you, He sat back and admired His work. He still does. He knit you together in your mother’s womb, He created your inner most being; all the days ordained for you were written in His book, before one of them came to pass. You are His workmanship, only He knows the real you and it is only through Him that we can come to understand who we were made to be. He yearns for you to find all the good things that He wove into your being; He yearns for you to know the truth about you, and about Him. You are significant because you were made in His image and He’s destined you to return to Him.

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