Today is my forty-seventh birthday, and it’s been a good day. Despite the issues I’m facing in this season on my life, I wouldn’t trade this birthday for any of the ones that came before it. I’m blessed to have found my soul-mate and together we have four incredible kids, that I love with all of my heart. We are rich in the things that truly matter.
We’ve been really busy today and I haven’t had much time for reflection, but just now my baby girl (Bekah) hugged me, wished me happy birthday and looked up toward heaven and said, “Happy Birthday Grandpa”. I almost burst into tears at the realization that today would have been my father’s seventieth birthday.
One of the great joys of my life was sharing a birthday with my dad and I’m ashamed to admit that I hadn’t thought about him today. God knows I miss him and would have loved to have shared this day with him. He was a fine man and incredibly patient with me; unfortunately, I was a kid who required a lot of that. In honor of him, I wanted to re-post a tribute I wrote for him just before he passed away. It’s probably not my best writing, but it was (and is) certainly the cry of my heart. Happy Birthday Dad – I love you.
I Never Saw My Father Dunk a Basketball
I never saw my father dunk a basketball
and he never became a CEO
But I saw him live by what he believed
which showed me what was important for my life
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I never saw my father hit a home run
and he never held a public office
But I saw him serve his wife, children, church, country…
which showed me that life was about something more than myself
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I never saw my father make his first million
and we never lived in a mansion
But I never knew what it was like to miss a meal
which showed me the difference between wants and needs
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My father wasn’t born with a silver spoon in his mouth
and he never won the lottery
But I saw my parents build a life for their family, with little or no help from anyone
which taught me that where you come from is no excuse
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I never saw my father’s name in the headlines
and he never made it onto a highlight reel
But I watched him support others and be a team player
which showed me that secure people don’t need the spotlight
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I never saw my father lift a weight
and he never made the Olympics
But I saw him be committed & work hard at every endeavor
which showed me that strength has more to do with character than muscle
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I never saw my father receive his degree
and he was never deemed a Scholar
But I saw him lead his family through the good and bad times
which showed me that wisdom isn’t what you say, but how you live
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I never saw my father paint a picture
and he never wrote a song
But I saw him cry & say “I Love You”
which let me know that it was OK for a man to do that
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I never saw my father overpower anyone
and he wasn’t much for intimidation
But I saw him be patient when others struggled
which showed me that exposing others weaknesses, doesn’t make you strong
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I never saw my father in the pulpit
and he wasn’t one to quote you scripture
But I saw him pray to God
which showed me that God was real & that I needed Him too
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I never saw my father run a marathon
and he never climbed Mount Everest
But I saw him endure a cruel terminal illness with grace and perseverance
which taught me that you have to keep running until you cross the finish line
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My father wasn’t above losing his temper
and I saw him take some missteps along the way
But I heard him say “I’m sorry” & watched him learn from his mistakes
which showed me the way I needed to handle my failures
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My parents didn’t have a perfect marriage
and I can’t say that there was never a struggle
But I watched them stay together for 48 years
which taught me that love is like a garden & it requires regular tending
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I have often disregarded my father’s advice
and I have many times made disappointing choices
But he never made me feel like a disappointment & loved me anyway
which taught me about the love & forgiveness of a father (& “Our Father”)
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As I reflect on my father’s life, I realize that he was never what this world tells you that you “need” to be, but that he was in fact what God made him to be. If my father had been rich or famous, I doubt that I would have learned so much and I know that my life wouldn’t have been better. Reflecting on my father’s life shows me that I shouldn’t waste time worrying about what I’m not and what I don’t have; but to make the most of everything that I’ve been given. At the end of my life, I would be pleased if it could be said of me that, “he was a loving, committed husband, father, brother, son, friend…”; “you could always count on him”; “he loved God and tried to live for Him”; “he served his family, his church, his country…”; “he made a difference in my life”. I guess for me it would just be easier to say, “he was just like his father”. Yes, that would please me.
5 Things Our ‘Christianity’ Can Be About Instead of Christ
January 21, 2011 by bjcorbin
In the years that I’ve endeavored to walk with the Lord, I have encountered an amazing number of people, who identify themselves as “Christians” and yet possess few (if any) of the characteristics that the Bible would use to describe a follower of Jesus Christ. Most statistics seem to indicate that this phenomena is quite common in the United States, where the vast majority of Americans still describe themselves as “Christian” and yet adhere to a belief system that would seem to have little in common with the tenets of scripture. As I’ve pondered this disparity, I’ve come up with a few ideas about what might motivate such people.
1. Heritage / Tradition: Despite popular revisionist history, a Judeo-Christian belief system was an inherent thread within the original fabric of our country and as such, it has become a part of our national heritage. Similarly, there are many people who were raised in the “Christian tradition” (e.g. a reverence for God, trying to live by the Golden Rule, celebrating Christian holidays…), which has made it a part of their family heritage as well. For such people, their sense of connectedness may not be as much with the person of Jesus, as it is with their family and its history.
2. Being Good / Morals: Most of us were raised with the idea that we should at least try to be a good/moral person; and many of us were also raised with the idea that ‘good people’ are ‘God fearing’ people. For much of America’s history, a popular way to demonstrate such a reverence for God has been through church attendance. For some, going to church is just what ‘good people’ do on Sundays and it lets their friends and neighbors know that they belong in that category.
3. Being Blessed and/or Empowered: One of the major themes of the Bible is God’s love for mankind and His abundant provision for those who belong to Him. Undoubtedly, it is His desire for His children to live blessed and empowered lives, but our human nature has little trouble with trying to exploit that arrangement. One can easily develop a taste for the blessings of heaven, without developing a corresponding love for the dispenser of those blessings. In such a case, God’s role is reduced to little more than that of a divine vending machine.
4. Being Right: While becoming an heir to Christ’s righteousness is certainly a part of our relationship with Him, that differs dramatically from the very natural desire we have for others to view us as being ‘right’. For those endeavoring to come out on top of every argument, having a scripture reference to back up every point can be a handy tool. But this latter form of righteous is rooted in self-serving pride, which actually repulses God.
5. Avoiding Hell: No one who truly understood the implications of eternal separation from God would desire such a fate; but simply wanting to avoid hell is a far cry from knowing and loving God. Though there are many religious practices that we can adhere to, unless they lead us into some sort of genuine relationship with the person of God, they may amount to little more than faulty fire insurance. As it is with a bad insurance policy, by the time we figure out that we’re not covered, it’s probably already too late.
This is important because the scripture so clearly warns us that their will be people who refer to Jesus as Lord and rightfully claim to have done things in His name, who will be denied access to heaven because He never “knew” them (i.e. had a relationship with them). The word “knew” in that passage is the same word used in Genesis, when “Adam ‘knew’ Eve” and she conceived a son. Throughout the New Testament, there are warnings for people who profess to believe one way, but who live in a way that denies those beliefs. Though the Western church often promotes a doctrine of inclusion, the scripture still says that “narrow is the way that leads to life” and “few find it”.
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